suddenly fall ill, fake it.Advice: I'm supposed to be going on a trip in mid-July with a few friends...?
Tell them that your parents want let you go.Then get some new friends.Tell your parents what is going on.They will be so proud of you for coming to them and being honest,and being adult enought to know that alcohol and drugs and teens (or any age) is just asking for trouble.Backing out on your own is being so adult.Good for you.
tell them that you are going to school or college i am not sure what you are doing maybe getting ready for the new year *school) and therefore you have alot of things to get ready and or/ maybe you can tell them you have relatives coming at the same time you have not seen in a very long time and this is only time they are coming that may work better. good luck
if they really are your friends then why are you fretting. simply tell them that you dont feel comfortable going anymore. if they ask why say that getting stupid is just not your style of fun.
Just tell your Parents that you decided to stay home and Study, or Paint, or whatever hobby comes to your mind..
tell them you got in trouble at home and your punishment is to are no longer allowed to go on the trip
Blame it on your parents. Say that like right at the last moment your parents went crazy and said you couldnt go. Sound really mad about not being able to go and theyll totally believe it.
Either tell them now that you would be uncomfortable since you don't drink or use drugs and are too young, or wait until the last minute and cancel , saying something came up
. You don't owe anyone an explanation.
It 's a very wise decision you are making. But you should tell your parents why you are not going. You could be saving someones life.
If you don't feel comfortable telling your Friends why you do not want to go, then just lie. Tell them that your parents will not let you go.
The most important thing is that you don't go. Let them think you got into some sort of trouble with your parents and that they refuse to consider letting you go now.
Don't be afraid 2 tell them u don't want to go because of the drugs and alcohol. ppl will admire u for standing up against that, and if u lose friends o well... i wouldn't want 2 go, bcuz if they are drunk drivers who knows u may never go back home.
be the bigger person and tell them that is the reason. you would feel better standing up for your beliefs in the end. trust me. you don't want to be where you're uncomfortable the whole time. you will, of course, become known as a goody-goody, but you won't be invited to places and events that make you uncomfortable. it's better in the end. keeps you out of trouble. I mean, if you get invited to a party where you didn't know there would be drugs and underage drinking, and the party got busted, you would go down too. would you rather that or stand up for your beliefs and get left out of environments where you could go to jail?
sweetie, be different try not to fit in. if u know there will be drugs and acohol dont go. trust me if will later on lead to something you'll remeber which is not good!
tell them that u r sick or ur aunt or uncle is seriously ill and u cant come or tell them that u cant walk like something happened to ur foot.
This is a perfect time to say that your parents won't let you go. Tell your parents that you want your friends to believe that they won't let you go. You don't have to tell them why. Just tell them to trust you on this.
They should back you up.
Best Wishes
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Tell your friends you will go, but that you will not be doing drugs and alcohol. If they reject you for this reason then tell them you won't be going. My guess is that they will respect your decision to do only what you want to do. These are your friends! You must know that they engage in such things! GO! It doesn't mean YOU have to do drugs or alcohol. Friends are the most valuable and lasting thing in the world. True friendships last a lifetime, even longer that some marriages! Unless your friends are true deviates, you should go and be with them, and have fun, as long as they respect your wishes not to do these things, you are OK. At 17 you should be strong enough to stand your ground in terms of what you want to do. You will be faced with decisions all your life, some of them harder than this one. Go. Have fun. Party hard, but without the drugs and alcohol. And who knows, you just might have a real blast!
You sound like you got a good head on your shoulder's. My advice is to tell them the truth. Honesty is the best policy. If they are true friends they will understand. Plus under age drinking is very dangerous and against the law.
look if their your real friends they will understand, you just gotta tell them the right way. OR you could tell them your thinking about not going because of the drugs and alcohol but you will go if they promise you that no one will pressure you into it. and if you do go and they try to pressure you into it tell them that your sorry you just cant and that if they dont stand that their not your real friends!!! HOPE I HELPED!!!!!
I think a family member coming to visit is the most acceptable excuse to anyone. But i think it would be better to tell them straight out that what they are bringing is the contributing factor to you not wanting to go. They can either accept your independent decision or get upset. In the long run you can make tons of friends, but if your dead you can't.
honestly i would tell them why you don't want to go, and if you fear they wont be your friend anymore for this then they aren't very good friends.
but here is one i could see myself using... tell them your grounding for a week and your parents arent allowing you to go on the trip either... (also tell your parents what you told your friends in case your parents pick up the phone).
reasons why you were grounded... you took the car with out asking
came home late
broke something valuable (saying you did it on purpose makes it sound better)
well anyway be creative i am sure you will think of something to tell them!
good luck
say that your parents suddenly changed their mind about letting you go. Trust me it works every time.
Dont be a big baby go with your friends
Tell your parents the truth, and if you're worried about losing these ';friends';, the only thing you'd be losing are the drugs and alcohol. Your friends should reflect who you are. Is that the type of reflection you want?
Where are you going? If you are going to the beach tell them you are on your period!! ha ha lol jk!!
umm.... fake an illness, but not something common, something strange. But for the next few days act like you are totally excited about going like you just can't wait!! whooo!! Then suddenly you become ';ill'; and you feel so bad because you can't go.
Maybe you could say one of your relatives are coming into town and you never get to see them, or maybe you could come down with a sudden sickness. Or maybe you could just tell them the truth.
Honesty is always the best policy. Remember that lies beget more lies. Tell the truth.
tell them you're going to a concert or w.e. jsut lie if you ahve to......do what's right and you know what they;re gonna do is wrooooonggg
Its never a good idea to lie because it always backfires so you should just tell them why you dont want to go and if they laugh or something and you know make fun of you and stuff then they aren't real friends or at least aren't acting like they are.
I always believe honesty is best.. Just tell your friends you are not comfortable w/drinking and doing drugs, This is a choice you have made... and may I say way to go , shows me there is some really mature young adults still.... Also let your parents know why you decided not to go ... Your friends are young adults and not making good choices and it could be a dangerous situation for them.. But your parents can make a decision on what to do if anything , but they will be proud of you.... Good Luck...
well you could either be honest with your ';friends'; and tell them why you don't feel comfortable going. this would be the best way to go. you will find out who your true friends are. those that understand your feelings will still be your friends, those that disagree with how you feel probly aren't worth being friends with anyways. why waste your time with them?
but if you really feel that these are great people that you plan on being friends with then just tell them you don't feel well or it's your time of the month and you think you'd be a downer for the trip. there's plenty of excuses to use. i really think you should ask yourself if it's worth it to be friends with people that are abusing drugs and alcohol to the point that you don't wanna hang out with them. be smart!!!!
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