Okay, sweetie now you need to honestly stop being a push over because aww hes so cute. You may think these comments will be negative because it pertains to your parenting skills. Trust me I know! My daughter is now 3 and for awhile you just say aww and you feel bad when you have to discipline them. You need to nip it in the bud hun before hes too old! Okay so heres what you need to do. If you think you can get past it without it then I feel bad for you because the worse thing is to be embarrased in public.
1st- practice discipline at home. this is where it starts. as bad as it may sound. HE NEEDS TO FEAR WHAT YOU WILL DO IF HE DOESNT OBEY. (i am not suggesting abuse because thats ridiculous). what I mean is you need to show him you are the boss and he is the baby. yes he will test you because thats what kids do
2nd- as someone stated previously let him cry. not only just let him cry do not show any emotion that is negative or sad or any reaction. for example he gets mad jumps his little butt on the floor screaming saying he wants ice cream. you say i said NO if you wanna cry fine cry by yourself. AND LEAVE HIM RIGHT THERE. after awhile he will start to think man this doesn't work. children are sponges they soak up all they can and they are testy little creatures.
3rd- take things from him. example lets see...back to the ice cream. he jumps down screaming about something you say if you dont stop that right now you will not get your ice cream and i will take it and give it to a good little boy. dont you want to be mommies good little boy? he will start thinking a couple things...1 oh no mommy will find another baby? and also please dont take my ice cream.
i use these thing on my daughter when i saw that being nice to a 2 year old isnt always the answer. we have to put our foots down and take charge before they take charge of us and then its not cute!
Its really hard to listen to people and for them to criticize your parenting skills but sometimes we need to listen to it. (everyone isnt always right because you have to experience certain things in order to give advice)
I have experienced it and the first time my daughter embarrassed me was the last.
Also try to the 1 2 3 method.....i never get past 2 really.
make there be a consequence if you get past 3... honestly spanking!!1 spank his little hand or bottom never anything else. but it triggers his little brain saying man if mom gets to 3 it will hurt.
Hope this helps..
Good Luck and what happens from this point on is all in your hands... You can either be proud of your baby in public or ashamed!!!He's 19 months old and driving me crazy!!!!!!!!!!!ADVICE WOULD BE GREAT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!?
Your welcome. I hope it helps! Good Luck Hun. :)
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Ever hear of Terrible Two's? Just be patient. He'll outgrow this behavior, but you do have to be firm about disipline. That doesn't necessarily mean spanking, but the time out is a good one. It'll work eventually. Don't take him out into public if you don't need to. Good luck. I know, this is really frustrating to you. I've been there, but before you know it, he'll be grown up and moving out and then you'll miss his temper tantrums.LOL. You really will!!
First of all I am really sorry about your situation. It sounds rough. Second, as hard as it is, my advice to you is to just let him cry when he acts that way. In my opinion, he has learned that crying is how he gets his own way. If you quit responding to it, then he will learn that it isn't going to work and he will eventually stop. He has to learn that you are the boss, not him. Even if you are in the middle of the grocery store, just let him cry. I know it will be embarassing but anybody with kids will understand. Just tell him you love him but you are not going to carry him. Of course it is okay for him to cry when something is really wrong and then he should be held, but not when he is throwing a tantrum just for the sake of being held. He senses your frustration and your desire to do anything to get him to quit crying in public, and he uses that to get his own way. 2 year olds are very smart! Don't let him sense your frustation because that is just engaging him more into the drama. Keep your cool, show him you are in control of the situation, and this should get better with time.
This is easy. I have 3 and I am the BOSS!!! I know this is hard but you have to strike a certain fear in your children, or they WILL run over you and drive you crazy..my children were/ are well behaved because they KNEW that I was NOT playing with them. I ment what I said and said what I ment. I also joked and played alot so that they would know the difference.
I am going through the same thing right now with my son who just turned 2.I think it is a phase they go through???I try to limit his sugar and caffine intake and that seems to help some.Just hang in there you can get through this.As for all the negative commenst from people, you just have to ignore them and don't let them get to you.Good luck:)
Keep trying the time outs..and hang in there,,,if he is afraid of people and public places do your best to leave him at home when you want to get out try taking him to a park he will be able to get to know other kids...
I know it's tough-I have an 18 month old and he is learning to test the boundries. I feel it's also time he really learned what ';no'; is- because he hits and pinches to express himself, so I smack his hand (not hard, like you) and let him see in my face that I am serious. he is old enough to learn discipline like yours, and like the person above me said, show them who is boss.
Too many parents end up with the kid controlling the parent instead of the other way around just because they are fearful...
i agree with the person above me ....when i was younger i was the same way and i would just cry when i wanted somthing and i learned that it was the way to get what i want but when my parents started ignoring it i knew that it wasnt going to work anymore
I understand your frustration. I have worked with kids for 10 years and have a two year old myself! Different things work for different kids. It sounds like he's having some trouble expressing himself. Toddlers get very overwhelmed with their feelings and don't know what to do with them. Help him vocalize his feelings--communication is also new to them! You want to teach good problem solving skills and right now he's throwing fits to get his way and it's working. Try getting down on his level and talking to him. ';Are you scared?'; and teach him to say ';I'm scared'; Once he can vocalize his feelings you can then begin to help him through it. If he has a comfort stuffed animal or blankie maybe he could hold that instead of holding you....you may have to try several things but whatever you do stay consistant and loving!
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