awww....how sweet! u are doing step #1, which if find out what to do to be Better.
that is Awesome.. u should be proud of urself. i see that u are someone who takes initiative and is willing to Learn and has the ability to change for the Better all things in your life, whether work, school, relationships, Whatever! good for you~~!
now, my suggestion would be to just work on Yourself. ur confidence, ur appearance, ur mind, ur family relationships, friend relationships, and being a Good Person. u need to be as all around as u can.. so throw urself into Work, School, Learning, Hobbies, Activities. the more capable u are at All things, the more u have to offer to ur relationship. also, the less ';dependent'; or ';jealous'; u will be towards her (insecurity causes a lot of jealousy problems). u need to work on being a Trustworthy, Honest, Respectful and Respecting MAN. a Man knows how to take care of himself, of his girlfriend, and to make Good Decisions that affect both of u guys. Also, u need to learn how to Listen, Communicate, and Respect your girlfriend and be open to changing anything negative for the Better of the Relationship.
as long as u can keep an open mind, be a Good Leader while Respecting her position and ideas, and cultivate ur ability to take care of her in a Positive, Healthy and Happy manner, u will be great!Any one have advice to be a good boyfriend?
SCREW HER AND LEAVE HER! TRUST ME ON THIS ONEAny one have advice to be a good boyfriend?
Don't smother the girl. You can be close without suffocating her and making her want to run away.
rule #1: Women are ALWAYS right...
rule#2: Be careful to what you say because it's not what YOU think you said, it is what SHE thinks you said.
rule #3: If she thinks these are false, refer to rule#1.
Don't EVER play Holo..... LOL But no seriously. Half the time girls just want you to LISTEN. Guys **** up by not truly LISTENING (not hearing) to what we have to say.
well lets see it depends on what is wrong! well are you abusive or are you negative etc. if thats the case some pyschotherapy needs to be sought after but if you are going by what someone else say then maybe its them and they have some serious issue
Good boyfriends have fat wallets and do whatever she wants. I prefer to be a ok boyfriend rather then a foot stool.
DONT BE A JERK BY MAKING HER CRY
Treat her as you would want to be treated.
Well, I can tell you that you should be a good listener, first of all, faithful and honest also helps. Showing her alot of respect and affection especially around other females will definitely score you points. Being a good boyfriend consist of just being a best friend but with perks. Good luck, Baller.
Smiley, Bronx, NY
yea tell the truth, dont cheat, use lots of compliments and buy special gifts and dont ever choose your friends over the one you are dating unless you dont really care about her
be smart and kind:)
compassion.
women like to know that a guy likes them and adores them. be affectionate. thats the key.
course flowers or chocolate couldnt hurt too.
but if u ever date a girl that has issues with her body, dont give chocolate. she'll think ur making fun of her weight.
A good boyfriend. I am glad you ask. I am a woman and these are things that I would enjoy. Watching movies @home or theatre. flowers every couple weeks. even cheap ones due it doesnt matter the price. Talking. Dinner. Cook her dinner. Or just a gettaway for the weekend. Hope these help.
Lots of flowers, learn how to cook and learn how to put the toliet seat back down
read tips on dating and relationships to help you more on this site
the best thing you can do for her is to be considerate. Do things for her that she is not expecting. one time i had a school project due the next day and i was up all night working on it. at like 3:00 in the morning my boyfriend showed up at my house with donuts and coffee and was ready to keep me company. i will never forget that.
I heard this advice on a Dr. Phil show, (I know its cheesy) but it makes a great deal of sense. He said that men should treat their girlfriends/wives how they would want someone to treat their mother/sister/daughters. Hopefully you would want someone to open doors for them, protect them, value their opinions. thoughts, feelings, etc.
Be considerate,be honest pay attention to what she says and how she feels, tell her how you feel... does not have to be mushy all the time but a simple i love you everyday or ';you look really pretty today';, don't smother her but let her know that you want her around, ask her out on dates even if you have been together for years, make her laugh and be comfortable with her. Be yourself because that is probably who she loves. Make her feel like she is the only girl in the world, be faithful, keep your space and don't rush anything. When she wants to talk about an issue listen and talk about it with her. Don't belittle her or make her feel inferior but be a man and make her feel safe. Cuddle after sex, although it is over for you and you want to roll over and go to sleep she is still feeling romantic and needs a little more time. Most of all just love her and make sure she knows it.
Listen, be faithful, know what she likes and don't like, don't bother her when she on her period, don't cheat cuddle if she likes that, leave if she's a gold digger, don't cheat, little things matter, don't bring up the past, express youself and emotions, don't cheat, hold her purse if she asks you to, talk to her, did I mention don't cheat?
You live and learn....all females are different.
just pay ur partner lots of attention adn always look out for those non-physical needs.
Always treat her the way you would expect her to treat you.
(and I am not referring to sex)
Dont cheat and show her you can be trusted when she not around. Also be honest abut every mistake you make down the path of life.
And most of important always make sure she is happy.
treat her like the queen she is.
yeah don't cheat, be honest, trust her, tell her that you love her everyday, oh and tell her how you feel, don't be afraid to cry.
If you give her affection, and do cute, sweet little things for her, you will melt her heart. My bf drew a heart and wrote ';Love You'; on a napkin and handed it to me, I've kept the thing for 16 years. He also gave me a stuffed heart that said ';You're my Sweetheart,'; I loved that too so much. On Easter he gave me an Easter basket, that was so adorable of him. Also just cuddling up on the couch or in bed is wonderful and brings you closer emotionally. Just say, ';Come here, baby'; and take her in your arms. If you do these little things, before you know it, she will adore you, if she doesn't already! Any thoughtful gesture that shows you're thinking of her or care for her will please her. Its easy! When you love someone, these things come naturally.
be funny
Friday, January 8, 2010
Does anyone have advice for a 13 year old who wants to be a good actor?
i know how to become an actor just how do i become a good oneDoes anyone have advice for a 13 year old who wants to be a good actor?
uhhh try out for plays and practice, practice, practice. and imagine ur that character, like actually visualize being that person, good luckDoes anyone have advice for a 13 year old who wants to be a good actor?
if u find somethin that works for u let me know im a 14 year old trying to make it myself except all my auditions turn into some agencies scheme to make money :-(
stay in school
u have to feel it, man
make it real..c if u wud b convinced by ur own acting
Quit while your ahead.
take an acting class... and practice laughing and crying on cue without sounding fake.
Join the Drama Club at school. and practice, practice, practice. Did you ever hear of starving actors? Please give it some thought.
uhhh try out for plays and practice, practice, practice. and imagine ur that character, like actually visualize being that person, good luckDoes anyone have advice for a 13 year old who wants to be a good actor?
if u find somethin that works for u let me know im a 14 year old trying to make it myself except all my auditions turn into some agencies scheme to make money :-(
stay in school
u have to feel it, man
make it real..c if u wud b convinced by ur own acting
Quit while your ahead.
take an acting class... and practice laughing and crying on cue without sounding fake.
Join the Drama Club at school. and practice, practice, practice. Did you ever hear of starving actors? Please give it some thought.
Okay i need advice if there is a guy that hates to admitt that he likes you and wants to be more than friends.
If you mean sex is his only plan...find a new friend. Those are a dime a dozen.
If you mean he wants to be your one and only boyfriend...then the answer is obvious,what is there to admit?Okay i need advice if there is a guy that hates to admitt that he likes you and wants to be more than friends.
i agree, if he really is that into you he will let you know.Okay i need advice if there is a guy that hates to admitt that he likes you and wants to be more than friends.
don't stress it. he should come around. guys always do. so good luck.
If he honestly liked you and wanted to be more than friends..
He would have.
Why are we making excuses for people?
If he really likes you and wants to be more than friends he wouldn't hate to admit that he likes you.
TRUE U NEED TO TALK IT OUT TO HIM.
talk to him
i agree if he is really that into u he would have no problem letting u know
What do you mean? areyou saying that he is wanting more or you are? If it is you liking him but he hasn't said it back than you gotta talk...cause you cannot pretend to assume you know what this man wants or doesnt want...TALK
If he honestly liked you and wanted to be more than friends..
He would have.
Why are we making excuses for people?
tell him that he needs to stop fronting....becuz thats how gurls get stuck in the friends w/ benefits stage and never move on to the boyfriend/girlfriend thing...the guy tells u all this stuff and blows ur head up...bt he doesnt admit it when he's around other people...so tell him either he stops frontin or it aint happenin
Do first step... he will do rest
If you mean he wants to be your one and only boyfriend...then the answer is obvious,what is there to admit?Okay i need advice if there is a guy that hates to admitt that he likes you and wants to be more than friends.
i agree, if he really is that into you he will let you know.Okay i need advice if there is a guy that hates to admitt that he likes you and wants to be more than friends.
don't stress it. he should come around. guys always do. so good luck.
If he honestly liked you and wanted to be more than friends..
He would have.
Why are we making excuses for people?
If he really likes you and wants to be more than friends he wouldn't hate to admit that he likes you.
TRUE U NEED TO TALK IT OUT TO HIM.
talk to him
i agree if he is really that into u he would have no problem letting u know
What do you mean? areyou saying that he is wanting more or you are? If it is you liking him but he hasn't said it back than you gotta talk...cause you cannot pretend to assume you know what this man wants or doesnt want...TALK
If he honestly liked you and wanted to be more than friends..
He would have.
Why are we making excuses for people?
tell him that he needs to stop fronting....becuz thats how gurls get stuck in the friends w/ benefits stage and never move on to the boyfriend/girlfriend thing...the guy tells u all this stuff and blows ur head up...bt he doesnt admit it when he's around other people...so tell him either he stops frontin or it aint happenin
Do first step... he will do rest
How much are tickets to Warped Tour & any advice on what to expect?
Kevin Lyman has personally said that this year's warped tour will be the cheapest yet. However the prices have not been released yet. Last year's presale tickets were around $30-40. I'm guessing that this year's presale will be around the same. Presale tickets will be out on the first of April, so get ready!
It's most probably going to be pretty hot this year as well, so bring some sunscreen. Definitely bring a camera with you. Other than that, it's pretty much the same every year regarding stages, tents, and food prices.face makeup remedies blackheads
It's most probably going to be pretty hot this year as well, so bring some sunscreen. Definitely bring a camera with you. Other than that, it's pretty much the same every year regarding stages, tents, and food prices.
I have trouble making friends and keeping up conversations, is there any1 who can give me advice?
I have had trouble making friends all my life, i was bullied and picked on during most my school life and didnt really make my first friend till yr 7, im 17 jst about to turn 18 now and i feel so depressed, ive made a few friends at college but i dnt get on wth them that well and we just hang around together because nobody else wants us. i also had a boyfriend who left me and doesn't talk which has just stirred my emotions up even more.
so basically is there any1 who understands me or can relate or can give me advise on how to make friends?I have trouble making friends and keeping up conversations, is there any1 who can give me advice?
Well,see if someone likes something that you like and talk about it.Or help them out in something.I have the same problem,so I just make friends with the ppl nobody likes,like me,so if there ain't anyone like that and if your life goes the same as mine I reccomend changing the place where you are...I have trouble making friends and keeping up conversations, is there any1 who can give me advice?
Just be yourself
I'm pretty much the same, and 40 in a few days. I got by ok I have trouble showing enotions and recognising emotion too, although I know what i like but it's hard to explain. You'll be ok I hope..
I use to have that same problem as well; I could never fully understand the alien cultures of other people. That's when I got diagnosed with Aspberger Syndrome. At first it felt stigmatizing to have Aspbergers but because of the diagnosis, I was able to get social skill intervention and learn how to understand others social cue鈥檚 and people were more understanding of my social errors. People with Aspbergers tend to have above average intelligence but have difficulty understanding the basics of social behavior (Einstein was believed to have it) so for now try to get help for your depression and then consider weather you should be tested for Aspbergers. Otherwise its possible that its not Aspebergers and maybe that your from a culture that is different from your peers or raised differently then your peers that makes it difficult to make friends. Usually the best thing to do is at appropriate times inquire politely with people you don鈥檛 get along with on ';why they don't want to be around you?'; ';What is it that I do that bothers you?'; Sometimes the answers may be assertive or helpful other times it may be rude and insulting so be prepared. If there answers are not informative like eg. They respond with ';because you act like an idiot'; (Your no where near one, this is just situations I dealt with) then ask them ';what is it that I do that makes you perceive me that way?'; If they don鈥檛 want to answer your questions find someone else. Other strategies I used for coping was watching other kids hang around peers and taking notes of what got them accepted or rejected. Compare how you act to how others act (don't try to conform just learn basic things about being good with people) other strategies I also used was watching comedies that had laughter in the background eg. Friends or Seinfeld and take note of instances when people crack up in the background especially if the character does something that you tend to do as well. That鈥檚 when you know that a certain behavior is inappropriate and should be changed. Or other strategies would be to talk to yourself in the mirror and observe how you look when you do it. (Don鈥檛 think its crazy or anything; many politicians do that before they make public speeches. Martin Luther King did that a lot and that made him a good public speaker. Just only practice in a mirror in privacy not public.) I wish you luck in finding acceptance. But until then I suggest you get counseling for your depression first because when trying to figure out why people don't accept you, you may sometimes find reasons that may be unsettling about yourself. For example is may you may find out that its something you have little or no control of that causes lack of acceptance. So you need to be emotionally strong to be able to figure out how to get along with people. Oh yeah one last thing, when people are telling you how to be included be aware they may sometimes lie about what to do and take advantage of you so make sure others do what they say as well and never do something you don鈥檛 feel comfortable with and observe weather they behave different when your not around then when you are.
Insecurity is most likely the cause of your problem. You need to work on developing a greater self-confidence. If you don't feel comfortable with yourself, then most likely, you're not going to feel comfortable making friends with others, for fear of rejection. You first need to be comfortable in your own skin, before you can start being comfortable around others.
I'd advise you to utilize the counseling services at your college to help provide you with any further assistance. Hope I've helped somewhat.
You may not entirely understand this answer but I think it will make you feel better. Sylvia Brown had told a women in the audience on the Montel show that the reason she feels alone and different from everyone else here is because this is her last life here on earth meaning she has an older soul then most others here so it's harder for her to relate. I feel that way sometimes although I do have a few friends. We have great relationships with those who watch over us so try to look more spiritually into yourself and also start thinking more positive about yourself and build your confidence up more. Your no longer in high school or college so don't stay in that mindset and be yourself, do not try to be anything your not. You'll attract more people to yourself that way.
Know who you are and build healthy human relationships built on mutual respect. Listen to people, smile and ask questions that demonstrate you really listened.
It's amazing how many people in High School have all kinds of acquaintences they call friends. I took a course at a junior college called ';Human Relations'; I was 43 when I took it. I wish I had taken a course like that when I was 17. The teacher recommended a book it was called ';Peoplemaking'; by Virginia Satir.
I'd also recommend ';What Do you say after you say Hello?'; by Eric Berne
Also where I work I deal with a woman who has always relied on her good looks. She's vain and mean and specializes in getting everyone to go to lunch with her. Everyone plays her little game and follows her. Most of the time I don't have the money to go to lunch. There's been a few times when I had the money but she wouldn't tell me where lunch was. In a way I am a victim of this female good looking bully.
As you can see below, someone told me I need to be on a talk-show ';People Who Quote Books';.
every body is going through a period of imbalance.... at your age you are just beginning to get to know yourself... we have lost so much freedom to do that... learning about yourself expressing yourself being yourself... once you start being comfortable in your own skin things will start to change...
don't let depression get you down... you are just starting YOUR life it's much better as an adult where you get to make the decisions ... if you need to talk send me an e-mail through
http://gypsys-emporium.com/talk_to_me
I've been there but that was many many years ago.... no one should start life that stressed.
Sorry to hear about your trouble.
I found the best way of making friends is try to have a more positive outlook in life. Your best bet is to join a club, u might find some on bulletin boards in the college. Once you go, be open and honest with people. Try talking about anything that's happening in the World. Music, politics etc. Ask people's impressions on what they think and listen. Try to see the funny side of things and share the joke with them. If you can do what I have suggested you will find people will warm to you and ask if you want to do other things. Remember, you need to have a positive outlook. Even if you feel down, to make friends they need to see a person they can have fun with. If you are finding depression a problem, the colleges usually do have counsellors that can help. You have to talk to them and open up to what is causing your depression though. Good luck.
When someone is special and better than his mates (you're the special) might make his ';friends'; become jealous and at times it is at this point where bullying and teasing come in. This happens because this is the last resort to put people down, by picking and bullying who is better than them. As you grow you will get to know and encounter more mature people and who are able to understand you. I don't know where you live and how big is the town you live in, but may be you should try and change location (I mean where you usually spend your time out) and go to another social club.
When I was in secondary school I was bullied myself and I know what it means to have the full attention to make a mistake and all my ';so called friends'; start picking on me.. That is a phase in life, you need to believe in yourself and say that you are the best; because if you believe in yourself you will have success. There are 9 billion people on this earth don't let a dozen make your life miserable. Good Luck!
Most often people with these problems are extremely shy. However shyness means THAT ONE IS ALL TOO AWAKE TO ONE'S OWN LOOKS, ETC., ETC.. If you sit and just think of your nose or something like that you make people think that you are a bore.
Interesting people to others are the ones who listen and takes an interest in others, not only themselves.
As to making friends now I should suggest that you find a group of people who share your interests. Then your may easily find someone to talk to and from there many a friendship has arisen out of the abyss - to put it that way.
Always remember that friends follow those who are not wrapped up in themselves.
First off, Im not sure if your a girl (since you had a boyfriend) or a guy (since your name is Tom1000) so that would help people analyze your situation.
With that said, I completely understand your situation. I am 19 and I just started college a few weeks ago. I also didnt make freinds until I was about 7 (when I started school) and I have kept very few of them through the years. I have been diagnoised with Social Anxeity Disorder, which is my main problem. I also took some **** growing up although I dont think it qualifies as bullying. My only friend in College thus far is my room mate but he isnt around so often.
My advise, find a club or organization within the school that sparks an intrest in you, its the best way to find like minded poeple. If possible, get a gob, you can meet a lot of people working and you will also make money. I recomend avoiding relationships for the time being just because if they dont work out it can be devistating to any progress you have made making friends. Ive joined a few clubs, still havent really met many people but I am in theopy (have been for years). See if your college has a theropist and then see if you can get an appointment. If he/she is good, they will listen and give advise. If you are attending a community college, then you might have less luck in which case I would go for the job. Good luck, it all gets better with time!!
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so basically is there any1 who understands me or can relate or can give me advise on how to make friends?I have trouble making friends and keeping up conversations, is there any1 who can give me advice?
Well,see if someone likes something that you like and talk about it.Or help them out in something.I have the same problem,so I just make friends with the ppl nobody likes,like me,so if there ain't anyone like that and if your life goes the same as mine I reccomend changing the place where you are...I have trouble making friends and keeping up conversations, is there any1 who can give me advice?
Just be yourself
I'm pretty much the same, and 40 in a few days. I got by ok I have trouble showing enotions and recognising emotion too, although I know what i like but it's hard to explain. You'll be ok I hope..
I use to have that same problem as well; I could never fully understand the alien cultures of other people. That's when I got diagnosed with Aspberger Syndrome. At first it felt stigmatizing to have Aspbergers but because of the diagnosis, I was able to get social skill intervention and learn how to understand others social cue鈥檚 and people were more understanding of my social errors. People with Aspbergers tend to have above average intelligence but have difficulty understanding the basics of social behavior (Einstein was believed to have it) so for now try to get help for your depression and then consider weather you should be tested for Aspbergers. Otherwise its possible that its not Aspebergers and maybe that your from a culture that is different from your peers or raised differently then your peers that makes it difficult to make friends. Usually the best thing to do is at appropriate times inquire politely with people you don鈥檛 get along with on ';why they don't want to be around you?'; ';What is it that I do that bothers you?'; Sometimes the answers may be assertive or helpful other times it may be rude and insulting so be prepared. If there answers are not informative like eg. They respond with ';because you act like an idiot'; (Your no where near one, this is just situations I dealt with) then ask them ';what is it that I do that makes you perceive me that way?'; If they don鈥檛 want to answer your questions find someone else. Other strategies I used for coping was watching other kids hang around peers and taking notes of what got them accepted or rejected. Compare how you act to how others act (don't try to conform just learn basic things about being good with people) other strategies I also used was watching comedies that had laughter in the background eg. Friends or Seinfeld and take note of instances when people crack up in the background especially if the character does something that you tend to do as well. That鈥檚 when you know that a certain behavior is inappropriate and should be changed. Or other strategies would be to talk to yourself in the mirror and observe how you look when you do it. (Don鈥檛 think its crazy or anything; many politicians do that before they make public speeches. Martin Luther King did that a lot and that made him a good public speaker. Just only practice in a mirror in privacy not public.) I wish you luck in finding acceptance. But until then I suggest you get counseling for your depression first because when trying to figure out why people don't accept you, you may sometimes find reasons that may be unsettling about yourself. For example is may you may find out that its something you have little or no control of that causes lack of acceptance. So you need to be emotionally strong to be able to figure out how to get along with people. Oh yeah one last thing, when people are telling you how to be included be aware they may sometimes lie about what to do and take advantage of you so make sure others do what they say as well and never do something you don鈥檛 feel comfortable with and observe weather they behave different when your not around then when you are.
Insecurity is most likely the cause of your problem. You need to work on developing a greater self-confidence. If you don't feel comfortable with yourself, then most likely, you're not going to feel comfortable making friends with others, for fear of rejection. You first need to be comfortable in your own skin, before you can start being comfortable around others.
I'd advise you to utilize the counseling services at your college to help provide you with any further assistance. Hope I've helped somewhat.
You may not entirely understand this answer but I think it will make you feel better. Sylvia Brown had told a women in the audience on the Montel show that the reason she feels alone and different from everyone else here is because this is her last life here on earth meaning she has an older soul then most others here so it's harder for her to relate. I feel that way sometimes although I do have a few friends. We have great relationships with those who watch over us so try to look more spiritually into yourself and also start thinking more positive about yourself and build your confidence up more. Your no longer in high school or college so don't stay in that mindset and be yourself, do not try to be anything your not. You'll attract more people to yourself that way.
Know who you are and build healthy human relationships built on mutual respect. Listen to people, smile and ask questions that demonstrate you really listened.
It's amazing how many people in High School have all kinds of acquaintences they call friends. I took a course at a junior college called ';Human Relations'; I was 43 when I took it. I wish I had taken a course like that when I was 17. The teacher recommended a book it was called ';Peoplemaking'; by Virginia Satir.
I'd also recommend ';What Do you say after you say Hello?'; by Eric Berne
Also where I work I deal with a woman who has always relied on her good looks. She's vain and mean and specializes in getting everyone to go to lunch with her. Everyone plays her little game and follows her. Most of the time I don't have the money to go to lunch. There's been a few times when I had the money but she wouldn't tell me where lunch was. In a way I am a victim of this female good looking bully.
As you can see below, someone told me I need to be on a talk-show ';People Who Quote Books';.
every body is going through a period of imbalance.... at your age you are just beginning to get to know yourself... we have lost so much freedom to do that... learning about yourself expressing yourself being yourself... once you start being comfortable in your own skin things will start to change...
don't let depression get you down... you are just starting YOUR life it's much better as an adult where you get to make the decisions ... if you need to talk send me an e-mail through
http://gypsys-emporium.com/talk_to_me
I've been there but that was many many years ago.... no one should start life that stressed.
Sorry to hear about your trouble.
I found the best way of making friends is try to have a more positive outlook in life. Your best bet is to join a club, u might find some on bulletin boards in the college. Once you go, be open and honest with people. Try talking about anything that's happening in the World. Music, politics etc. Ask people's impressions on what they think and listen. Try to see the funny side of things and share the joke with them. If you can do what I have suggested you will find people will warm to you and ask if you want to do other things. Remember, you need to have a positive outlook. Even if you feel down, to make friends they need to see a person they can have fun with. If you are finding depression a problem, the colleges usually do have counsellors that can help. You have to talk to them and open up to what is causing your depression though. Good luck.
When someone is special and better than his mates (you're the special) might make his ';friends'; become jealous and at times it is at this point where bullying and teasing come in. This happens because this is the last resort to put people down, by picking and bullying who is better than them. As you grow you will get to know and encounter more mature people and who are able to understand you. I don't know where you live and how big is the town you live in, but may be you should try and change location (I mean where you usually spend your time out) and go to another social club.
When I was in secondary school I was bullied myself and I know what it means to have the full attention to make a mistake and all my ';so called friends'; start picking on me.. That is a phase in life, you need to believe in yourself and say that you are the best; because if you believe in yourself you will have success. There are 9 billion people on this earth don't let a dozen make your life miserable. Good Luck!
Most often people with these problems are extremely shy. However shyness means THAT ONE IS ALL TOO AWAKE TO ONE'S OWN LOOKS, ETC., ETC.. If you sit and just think of your nose or something like that you make people think that you are a bore.
Interesting people to others are the ones who listen and takes an interest in others, not only themselves.
As to making friends now I should suggest that you find a group of people who share your interests. Then your may easily find someone to talk to and from there many a friendship has arisen out of the abyss - to put it that way.
Always remember that friends follow those who are not wrapped up in themselves.
First off, Im not sure if your a girl (since you had a boyfriend) or a guy (since your name is Tom1000) so that would help people analyze your situation.
With that said, I completely understand your situation. I am 19 and I just started college a few weeks ago. I also didnt make freinds until I was about 7 (when I started school) and I have kept very few of them through the years. I have been diagnoised with Social Anxeity Disorder, which is my main problem. I also took some **** growing up although I dont think it qualifies as bullying. My only friend in College thus far is my room mate but he isnt around so often.
My advise, find a club or organization within the school that sparks an intrest in you, its the best way to find like minded poeple. If possible, get a gob, you can meet a lot of people working and you will also make money. I recomend avoiding relationships for the time being just because if they dont work out it can be devistating to any progress you have made making friends. Ive joined a few clubs, still havent really met many people but I am in theopy (have been for years). See if your college has a theropist and then see if you can get an appointment. If he/she is good, they will listen and give advise. If you are attending a community college, then you might have less luck in which case I would go for the job. Good luck, it all gets better with time!!
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I want to know how to be comfortable going farther faster with my boyfriend im so nervous have any advice?
okay like my boyfriend and i are really close and i love him so much i trust him with my life but the thing is weve only kissed in the whole year and three months ive been with him well he wants to go farther and he wants to have sex me and i want to have sex with him too but im so nervous is there any way to get over that nervousness please i need helpI want to know how to be comfortable going farther faster with my boyfriend im so nervous have any advice?
Exactly as a few others said. If you are nervous without a doubt you aren't ready. When you are ready you won't be nervous at all.
You say, ';he wants to go farther';. If he truly cares for you he will wait. How old are you? Sex is a big deal. There are several responsibilities that come with it besides just ';pleasure';. Such as is this guy STD free and I'm not just talking about him saying he is. Or what happens if you get pregnant. Condom, birth control pills it can STILL happen.
When the time is right you will know and the time right now, isn't the right time. So wait...........you will be glad you did.I want to know how to be comfortable going farther faster with my boyfriend im so nervous have any advice?
right- you want to do it and so does he.the way to get over some of the nervousness is to be realistic and practical,fisrt time with someone always hard,even if yr not a virgin!make sure you have protection,and discuss it with him.this is no fling so its best to talk about it.DONT put yourself under pressure e.g we wil do it thursday night for sure.and the realistic side is it will be awkward,but it can be fun yr first time,chill out and dont get tense!if it doesnt happen for the first few times,its not the end of the world,discover forplay,feel around first,dont just jump for the end result.in the end if the forplay is right and your ready to go you wil know.good luck!
Don't do it, you sound too young. Just because you have been dating for a year doesn't mean you should feel obligated to do anything.
It is normal to ';want to have sex'; with each other, that's hormones, but that does not mean it is the right thing to actually do at this time. If you are feeling nervous, as you say you are, then I think that is yourself telling yourself ';No, don't do it.';
There are a lot of pressures telling you to have sex, but there are also quite a lot of people who have decided to wait. You won't be alone.
You can decide to have sex and no longer be a virgin, but you can't take it back afterwards - so don't be pressured into anything you are not sure about.
Is there anyone you can talk to about things like this, who you trust their judgement and confidentiality?
Try not to think about it so much and just let it happen naturally. Your fears are all in your head!
Don't do it. If you don't feel comfortable then you're not ready. He seems good enough to wait so just tell him that it isn't time yet... If he doesn't like it then he's not the one for you........
I think this question has been asked before. Why dont you search for it in the search for questions to see the answers?
Exactly as a few others said. If you are nervous without a doubt you aren't ready. When you are ready you won't be nervous at all.
You say, ';he wants to go farther';. If he truly cares for you he will wait. How old are you? Sex is a big deal. There are several responsibilities that come with it besides just ';pleasure';. Such as is this guy STD free and I'm not just talking about him saying he is. Or what happens if you get pregnant. Condom, birth control pills it can STILL happen.
When the time is right you will know and the time right now, isn't the right time. So wait...........you will be glad you did.I want to know how to be comfortable going farther faster with my boyfriend im so nervous have any advice?
right- you want to do it and so does he.the way to get over some of the nervousness is to be realistic and practical,fisrt time with someone always hard,even if yr not a virgin!make sure you have protection,and discuss it with him.this is no fling so its best to talk about it.DONT put yourself under pressure e.g we wil do it thursday night for sure.and the realistic side is it will be awkward,but it can be fun yr first time,chill out and dont get tense!if it doesnt happen for the first few times,its not the end of the world,discover forplay,feel around first,dont just jump for the end result.in the end if the forplay is right and your ready to go you wil know.good luck!
Don't do it, you sound too young. Just because you have been dating for a year doesn't mean you should feel obligated to do anything.
It is normal to ';want to have sex'; with each other, that's hormones, but that does not mean it is the right thing to actually do at this time. If you are feeling nervous, as you say you are, then I think that is yourself telling yourself ';No, don't do it.';
There are a lot of pressures telling you to have sex, but there are also quite a lot of people who have decided to wait. You won't be alone.
You can decide to have sex and no longer be a virgin, but you can't take it back afterwards - so don't be pressured into anything you are not sure about.
Is there anyone you can talk to about things like this, who you trust their judgement and confidentiality?
Try not to think about it so much and just let it happen naturally. Your fears are all in your head!
Don't do it. If you don't feel comfortable then you're not ready. He seems good enough to wait so just tell him that it isn't time yet... If he doesn't like it then he's not the one for you........
I think this question has been asked before. Why dont you search for it in the search for questions to see the answers?
How can I get guys to like me? Advice from guys is very much appreciated!?
I'm sick of being invisible to guys. They all seem obsessed with boobs and sex and I'm flat-chested and not anywhere near ready for sex. I know I'm not the prettiest or most popular girl in the world but I'm not the ugliest or least popular girl either. I'm athletic and am really into basketball soo I used to think that would help me with the guys but it hasn't. What's the best way to get them to notice me... in a good way? What do they look for in a girl's personality?How can I get guys to like me? Advice from guys is very much appreciated!?
Listen,Any guy will like u if u r just normal,just act cool with them and don't do what the popular girls do:hitting boys.PLEASE don't do that.
Its so annoying!so just act calm with them and slowly lead the conversation a way so that the boy will ask u out,(ex.';So what are u doing this weekend';) Thanks,hope it helps :-)How can I get guys to like me? Advice from guys is very much appreciated!?
the only thing that i like in a girl is when she is open and she likes to laugh infront of me. don't be shy.
and sports usually helps that is why i joined football but it didn't help
but now i am a male cheerleader and that is something i love. now i got a girlfriend that likes me for that
so what i am saying is be yourself and do things without thinking of guys.
cause when you are not trying to be notice thats when you mostly get noticed good luck and i hope the best for you.
sup i'll try and help you
um as a guy we have types, we judge alot by size weight hair color and race , even though those aren't the most important things we look at them.. so if you take care of that stuff and attempt to look cute then you'll get looked at, personality is a iffy thing because different guys like different things, its best to be funny and not stuck up cause all guys like those to things and to tease all guys like the chase and trying to get what they can't have...
Crazy and rambunctious is usually the best way in my opinion. personally, i like this girl that isn't amazingly attractive, but she does have a great personality and shes the craziest person i have ever met. For a lot of guys, its a turn on
Don't treat yourself like you suck, first of all. Not all guys are obsessed with sex or boobs either. You're not invisible...you just think you are.
just keep being the person that you are and never change for anybody. maybe a new hairdo or a little makeup might help, but nothing drastic.
guys like it when you go and talk to them if you talk to guys often they will talk back some may ignore you but as long as you keep trying you will find someone who will listen to you and understand that you are a special girl by the question that you are asking i can tell that you are a special girl cuz im the same way its not easy for me to get girls to notice me but the thing that i do is i keep trying and trying cuz i have gotten a girl before and the reason why is because i believed that if i kept trying to get a girl then i would and i did and know im don't have one anymore but that is not going to stop me from trying again because i know that i will find someone again and i know that you will to because you have to just continue to try your best to get someone that you know will love you for who you are. :)
Listen,Any guy will like u if u r just normal,just act cool with them and don't do what the popular girls do:hitting boys.PLEASE don't do that.
Its so annoying!so just act calm with them and slowly lead the conversation a way so that the boy will ask u out,(ex.';So what are u doing this weekend';) Thanks,hope it helps :-)How can I get guys to like me? Advice from guys is very much appreciated!?
the only thing that i like in a girl is when she is open and she likes to laugh infront of me. don't be shy.
and sports usually helps that is why i joined football but it didn't help
but now i am a male cheerleader and that is something i love. now i got a girlfriend that likes me for that
so what i am saying is be yourself and do things without thinking of guys.
cause when you are not trying to be notice thats when you mostly get noticed good luck and i hope the best for you.
sup i'll try and help you
um as a guy we have types, we judge alot by size weight hair color and race , even though those aren't the most important things we look at them.. so if you take care of that stuff and attempt to look cute then you'll get looked at, personality is a iffy thing because different guys like different things, its best to be funny and not stuck up cause all guys like those to things and to tease all guys like the chase and trying to get what they can't have...
Crazy and rambunctious is usually the best way in my opinion. personally, i like this girl that isn't amazingly attractive, but she does have a great personality and shes the craziest person i have ever met. For a lot of guys, its a turn on
Don't treat yourself like you suck, first of all. Not all guys are obsessed with sex or boobs either. You're not invisible...you just think you are.
just keep being the person that you are and never change for anybody. maybe a new hairdo or a little makeup might help, but nothing drastic.
guys like it when you go and talk to them if you talk to guys often they will talk back some may ignore you but as long as you keep trying you will find someone who will listen to you and understand that you are a special girl by the question that you are asking i can tell that you are a special girl cuz im the same way its not easy for me to get girls to notice me but the thing that i do is i keep trying and trying cuz i have gotten a girl before and the reason why is because i believed that if i kept trying to get a girl then i would and i did and know im don't have one anymore but that is not going to stop me from trying again because i know that i will find someone again and i know that you will to because you have to just continue to try your best to get someone that you know will love you for who you are. :)
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